It seems like it is all about looking fit in the eyes of others so that others may praise you of maintaining your body. To impress them you need to be successful, happy and attractive. Who would not like to attract that life mate but for that you require good looks. For years from now the search for the best diet or the most effective exercise regiment is undertaken to lose weight and everyone struggles with it sooner or later.

To find a sense of worth and fitness in mind from the core of my heart is more important than how my body looks. For that you dont have to quest to lose weight. To loose weight is not the only problem but looking fit from both body and mind is necessary. This is really about getting in touch with your own self-worth and accessing a deeper feeling that is not derived from your appearance.

The importance of self-acceptance must be equal to the importance of weight loss. Along with the weight loss when you make self-acceptance as one of the prime goal you opens a door towards feeling much better emotionally. Everyone knows emotional happiness is more necessary than physical happiness. Going for true self-worth gets you to stare the problem right in its eyes. Now you can realize that there are other ways to solve this problem besides from just dieting and exercising. Make emotional happiness a priority and be more conscious only then you can start to uncover the core issues.

Many books and resources are available in the market to advise you on various factors such as weight loss, self-esteem, body image, and true self-acceptance that will take you in new directions.

If anyone asks me what is the basic problem then I would probably say that the real problem is self-judgment and can be removed with self acceptance only and not by losing weight, or eating less or exercising.

If you are not confident at yourself then you would feel that everyone is seeing you with eyes of insult etc. So, stop being self judgmental to yourself and try to see the root of the problem. Be confident and then think how bad it was when you was self judgmental about yourself simultaneously finding ways to feel more self-esteem.